here is Musa Badri and in this video I want to challenge parents who are having problems with their child as young as one year old – as a teen you are struggling your child is not listening he is back answering she’s disrespectful she’s you know just not in control and you are going crazy and at the end you are getting so frustrated that you probably start yelling hitting or even verbally abusing your child so I have a challenge three golden rules that I apply to my kids being a parent of two kids these are the three golden rules which I believe if each and every parent out there who is having struggle with their child no matter what the age you will get results what I mean is you will be able to relate to your child think like your child and you will be able to help your child help him or herself what are the three rules these are the three rules which very difficult to implement and lot of parents who are asking us questions that you know my child is not listening is four years old and I just cannot manage handle a four-year-old child as young as even two years we get questions also teenagers we get questions and it really upsets me that how parents are really struggling and it’s not just the struggle of parents children are equally confused they have no clue what’s happening to them and they are just reacting and again the media devices internet and they are bombarded with so much information from all across social media that they have no clue what is right what is wrong so I want to help you as parents understand these three golden rules and if you implement this I promise you you will get results so what is the first rule the first rule is when your child does not listen to you and you want the child to do something right according to you your schedule your wants your time and the child is just not listening and doing what you want the child to do what is normal if parent is guilty you know I was guilty doing this you start yelling the first golden rule you start yelling so now there is a difference between you say can you please eat your food can you please do this I would appreciate if you wear your clothes or study or do whatever your request is that is communication but we see parents don’t communicate with their child anymore because they’re so frustrated they’re like how many times I have to tell you you are not doing this you don’t listen you’re like this only and this is yelling yelling constant yelling now what happens is when you start yelling your child shuts off the first golden rule stop yelling the second golden rule is when the yelling continues so you keep on yelling you yell yell and the child obviously does not feel good about him or herself and he or she stops listening and you know getting what you really want anyway you get more frustrated right so the yelling continues and you add the third golden rule which you should not be doing is verbal abuse and this is by far the most ridiculous thing which we get to hear from parents where parents are calling their child you’re an idiot you are stupid you are good for nothing you know why were you even born and you’re your disaster your mistake and you’re you are making my life miserable and these are the things which parents tell a two-year-old a foyer a six-year do you realize coming from a mother or father these words can literally kill the child mind emotion upbringing values they stop loving themselves because they are hearing these things from the two most important person in their life the father and the mother and to the extremes I’ve heard people saying why were you even born right I mean I don’t understand if you have brought this child to life a mother has kept the child for nine months in her womb and then maybe the father maybe the mother is so Frost with the child there is no love there is no empathy and there’s verbal abuse I really really want to help you you know understand that verbal abuse is the second Golden Rule which should absolutely not be done no matter what the situation or circumstance right the third golden rule that all parents should follow is hitting you should not hit your child so when you start abusing your child and your child is not doing something you’re yelling and then what what what else do you have you know he or she is not listening they don’t budge they show you the hand they give you the depth you’re right very tempting to go and start hitting so you hit the child you beat the child you pinch the child you have something in your hand you throw it at the child and this verbal abuse moves into physical form and most often the child if he is young vulnerable the child cannot retaliate so the child just kind of gets more into his or her shell and just does know how to communicate and that just makes everything worst so what I want to highly highly recommend all you parents out there that please follow these three golden rules do not ever ever yell at your child if you attempted communicate with your child just talk to your child right just just have requests statements I really appreciate it would be nice if you do this you know you’re such a good great great boy or a girl why don’t you try this why don’t you try that communicate with love and care that joy is your own blood right the second golden rule of when we talk about verbal abuse you wouldn’t allow your anyone else to abuse your childhood you know what if I comments are abusing a child or any and you’re good for nothing I promise you the parent will stand up and defend the child you wouldn’t allow a stranger to abuse your child why would you do it yourself now we often understand that you probably are struggling with your own self issues parents are often struggling with their own marriage issues financial issues personal relationship issues health issues and that entire frustration gets out or removed vented out on the child please be aware if you are not alive and fearless these are the three golden rules which you will have problem following and the last one is hitting right physical abuse on the child what do you do sit with the child you know put your hand around the child hug your child kiss your child how about that why wouldn’t you do that now I understand parents are going you don’t know my child he’s a brat he’s a monster you know we can’t tolerate we can’t handle him he is your monster right he is your child you the child was not born a monster or the child was not born the way you are looking at the child it is a constant observation that the child is looking at you and if you give the child verbal abuse you hit the child you yell at the child what are you expecting the child to give you back love care listening understanding of course not the child is going to give you back what you give you gave the child it’s like an open mirror you hit the child and I promise you when the child is able to hit you back he or she will hit you back because just that the child is not even not strong the child is not able to retaliate so I really really appreciate you watching this video if you are watching if you’re a parent in still watching this video please follow the three golden rules I know it might be difficult in the beginning but I promise you if you keep at it you will be able to do it and take it as a challenge you know I challenge all parents who come to me ask me questions across social media we get emails and when I get into consulting we find out that these are the three main things that the parents have to stop doing and I challenge all you parents if you can do this I promise you results if you stop doing these three things if you stop yelling if you stop abusing if you stop hitting and if you still don’t get the results then I will personally coach you for free alright if you do these three things and if you don’t get results then maybe there is something beyond that call us and I will help you for free but you have to tell me that you have done these three rules and you are sure that you’re not doing these three golden rules all right I hope this video helps you parents out there if you have your questions that you want to ask me head on to matzo battery comm and opt in to our email list you can ask your questions through the email that we send you I hope this video serves all of your parents if you know any parent who is doing these three things please forward this video and maybe it helps the parent as well as the child as well as the entire family bring more love peace and happiness in their life if you have any other further questions please post your questions in the comment box below follow my youtube channel give me a thumbs up if you like this video subscribe to our channels say I’ll stay fearless dream big and be an awesome parent thank you so much